Islam has given responsibilities and duties to both husband and wife for a happy married life, which makes life happy. In the light of Qur’an and Hadith, some such issues have been highlighted.
What the husband should do: Just as Islam has instructed the wife to obey the husband, so the husband has instructed the wife to treat the wife well.
Behaving well: Islam has instructed to treat your wife kindly even if you don’t like her. The Holy Qur’an says, “Treat them well. If you dislike them, you may dislike that which Allah has reserved for you.” (Surah An-Nisa ‘, verse 19).
Seeing the good aspects of the wife: Narrated from Abu Huraira (RA), ‘No believing man (husband) will dislike a believing woman (wife) utterly. Because one of his habits is disliked but the other habit can be preferred. ‘(Sahih Muslim)
Trying to be good in the eyes of the wife: Islam has given importance to the opinion of the wife in case of good or bad. Narrated Aisha: The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, ‘The best of you is the one who is better to his wife and family.’ (Sunan al-Tirmidhi)
What the wife should do: Islam has given some instructions to the wife to resolve the quarrels, disputes and crises in the marital life. E.g.
Husband’s obedience in lawful deeds: Islam has advised the husband to obey in lawful and lawful deeds and has also announced the reward of this obedience. Narrated Umm Salma: The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, ‘A woman who dies in a state in which her husband is pleased with her will go to Paradise.’ (Sunan al-Tirmidhi)
Avoiding immorality: Narrated Anas: The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: When a woman prays five times a day, fasts in Ramadaan, guards her private parts, and obeys her husband, she can enter Paradise happily. . ‘(Musnad Abu Yala)
Hadith scholars say that it is said to avoid all kinds of immorality and unjust indulgence by the custody of the place of shame. Because small unjust indulgences are the cause of big sins in the future.
Fulfilling the legitimate expectations of the husband: Narrated from Abu Usama (RA), the Prophet (SAW) said, after the fear of Allah, a good wife is the best for a believer. The characteristic of a wife is that she obeys her husband’s instructions, she makes him happy when she looks at him, if she trusts him and makes a vow, she fulfills it and is kind to herself and her husband’s property in the absence of her husband. Is. (Sunan Ibn Majah)
Men have more responsibilities: Both men and women have responsibilities to make married life happy and successful. However, the responsibility of men is a little more. The husband has more responsibility than the wife in creating monogamy and distance between husband and wife. He will take the initiative to bridge the distance by giving up his stubbornness and intimacy.
If distance is created due to his mistake, he will correct himself and try to win his wife’s heart. And if the wife makes a mistake, she should think of the consequences before giving a severe punishment, so that the arranged garden does not turn into a desert. Because he is also the head of the family and the guardian of his wife.